Presence of the beloved
Friday, July 27,
Am leaving this buzzling city life of singapore.. to run away some might say.. but i do need a breather... a place where i can stop thinking about everything that has bothered me for so long..
To finally realise how much trouble i have caused in making the perfect date one could get.. To understand how much burden i have weigh down you the one i love... to finally understand.... To love doesnt need to be with but just to stand by the side letting her be herself is most important... Aint i one silly boy.. i can be such a honourable philosopher to others but its only when i read back on what i have said.. i realise i am nt as great compared to them... well maybe i just can think better but actions... seems to wait a little longer to show then my words do.. "saying is always easier then putting it into actions"
To love others we 1st have to understand what really is love..
To experience it silently understanding the beauty of love...
To know the happiness and confusion it can cause..
To solve the problems faced..
To help one another...
All the to do, to know thingy... it all seems alot..
but actually it boils down to being the one who knows when to come in and go away at times..
To actually be there when needed and vanish when its space is too filled..
To the one who knows who she is... you really made me understand alot alot more that i thought i knew.. to see this world differently...
Now Love Relationships doesn't bother me as much already.. To see you with another person doesn't bring tt jealous feeling out anymore.. NO not tt i have given up.. just tt i know its the space that is important.. That will bring us further.. Maybe we'll meet again.. and who knows we might be together again... Its all enuf.. being a friend is better then stranger... Whats more someone whome we are comfortable with.. its better then every other things..
Being a successful person and sumone who portray a sense of security and being "Wealthy" both in physical and spritual form.. tts more important then all else for the time being..
Till then the future is all so vauge......
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A Little Food For Thoughts:
A man going abroad to work leaves his fiancee crying. "Don't worry, I will write you everyday," he said. For years he did write her. But since he was happy with his job, he had no immediate plans of going home.
One day, he received a wedding invitation. His girlfriend was scheduled to be married. To whom? To the mailman bringing regularly the letters ofher boyfriend! Indeed, distance does make hearts flounder.
The poor boyfriend surely explained, "What went wrong? I sent her letters, chocolates, and flowers."
When relationships go wrong, the list of things given and done for the person usually crops up. We say, "I have given you this and that... I have done these things for you." It seems that love is simply proven by the bestowal of gifts and favors. But while presents are important, love demands what is basic: 'presence of the beloved'.
I have observed for instance, the orchids of my mother's. When she's away for a long time, they are unhealthy and many of them wither. But whenshe is around, they bloom with beautiful flowers. My mother does nothing exceptional. She just spends much time talking and caressing them.
I guess human all the more require a caring presence.
Love is fundamentally a commitment to a person. We may be committed to our business, job, hobby, sports and clubs. But strictly speaking, they cannot love us back. Only a person can love us in return, and for that matter, the highest commitment as human beings, is spending time with those persons we love.
And since people need affection and nourishment, material things can only help up to a certain degree in fostering love. But it can never replacethe greatest gift of presence becuz everyone needs someone - be it friends, parents, siblings or simply that 'special' one.
Being there for someone need not necessary mean having to say alot. Words are sometimes redundant. Remember that 'presence' (to be there for someone) is more than enough.
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